Fairly recently I decided that I would make myself available to meet someone new. Well I met a really nice guy a couple of months ago and I decided to step outside of my comfort zone and take the time to get to know him. Well he's a perfect example of the one that you can "take home to mamma". He has a good job, a house and stability. There's only one problem though.
I have no desire to jump his bones when I see him.
He's not unattractive but I don't have those strong sexual feelings toward him. I shared these thoughts with my friends and one of them thought that it might be good that I don't want to sleep with him as often as possible but I'm not so sure.
To me sex is a very important part of a romantic relationship but I wonder if I'm putting too much emphasis on it in this instance. We click pretty well in other categories so maybe the sex stuff would come later?
Is it shallow or unrealistic to want the stability, good conversation and comfort to be all wrapped around an unmistakeable physical attraction?
May 28, 2006
May 22, 2006
Desperation is not pretty...
Well my career of choice is within the film, music and fashion industries. I've been drawn toward that industry ever since I was a freshman in college and despite a few attempts otherwise, that's where my heart lies. I learned early on that I would not be happy unless I was doing exactly what I wanted because then it wouldn't feel like work. The only thing that I would do in other industries is some form of event coordination or business consulting.
Recently I discovered that my calling is to use my skills and abilities to help other people succeed. I've been working in various administrative positions since I was a senior in high school which is why my company is a business consulting and management firm. I like to help people in the best way possible.
Well since I started working on my career more hardcore in the past few years, I have noticed an unsavory quality in many of my business dealings. There are a lot of people that I have had business dealings with who had a desperate quality to them. They are either desperate for money, attention, acceptance or anything else that they need outside sources for. This desperation is usually very evident and apparent and easy to exploit. I choose not to exploit it simply because I choose not to operate on that level.
Desperation...it's a very bad quality to allow yourself to possess. Everyone has hard times and rough patches in life but once you allow desperation to take over, you force yourself into a corner. Desperate people are easy to find and they allow themselves to get into compromising positions because all they see is that thing they are desperate for. Unfortunately I think it is what prevents many people from ultimately succeeding no matter how talented they may be. It's a sad thing that I've seen much more of in the entertainment industry than anywhere else. I'm sure it manifests itself in other areas but entertainment is so larger than life that it's twice as apparent.
Recently I discovered that my calling is to use my skills and abilities to help other people succeed. I've been working in various administrative positions since I was a senior in high school which is why my company is a business consulting and management firm. I like to help people in the best way possible.
Well since I started working on my career more hardcore in the past few years, I have noticed an unsavory quality in many of my business dealings. There are a lot of people that I have had business dealings with who had a desperate quality to them. They are either desperate for money, attention, acceptance or anything else that they need outside sources for. This desperation is usually very evident and apparent and easy to exploit. I choose not to exploit it simply because I choose not to operate on that level.
Desperation...it's a very bad quality to allow yourself to possess. Everyone has hard times and rough patches in life but once you allow desperation to take over, you force yourself into a corner. Desperate people are easy to find and they allow themselves to get into compromising positions because all they see is that thing they are desperate for. Unfortunately I think it is what prevents many people from ultimately succeeding no matter how talented they may be. It's a sad thing that I've seen much more of in the entertainment industry than anywhere else. I'm sure it manifests itself in other areas but entertainment is so larger than life that it's twice as apparent.
May 18, 2006
Assumptions can be destructive
Hello and welcome to my blog. I am a 28 year old living in Atlanta. I have my own management and business consulting firm and I do public relations consulting as well. I work primarily in the entertainment and fashion industries. Last weekend I graduated from grad school with my MBA. The weekend before that, I turned 28.
Life is really in a tailspin for me right now. I have been working constantly for the past three years and I'm officially burned out. My company is slowly experiencing success but it is slow and I am being taught patience in that area.
My dating life is all over the place. Up until a couple of years ago, I was totally against the idea of having a boyfriend. I'm still not out there trolling the clubs and sports bars looking for "the one" or anything but I did decide that I was open to the idea of being in a relationship again after 5 years. When I made that decision, I didn't do it out of desparation so I am still very picky when it comes to guys.
Well late last year I met this guy. He was nice looking but he looked like the typical nice guy, not the typical guy I gravitate toward. I decided to step outside my box and exchanged numbers with him anyway. As it turns out, we had TONS of things in common. It was like he was the male version of me. We could talk about everything and it was really fun spending time with him. Well after we'd been hanging out for a month or so, he disappeared.
This is a common phenomenon with me, guys disappearing. I call them my own personal Houdini's. I called him and emailed him with no response. After a couple of unreturned phone calls and no email messages, I gave up. Well in the summer I work at one of the local amphitheaters part time and he works there full time. I knew I would see him but since I had given up, I wasn't worried. Well he kept making it a point to speak to me. He even had the nerve to ask if I was going to be mad all season. I told him that I wasn't mad but that I really didn't have much to say to him.
Thanks to the miracle of myspace, he found me and sent me a message today. He wants to start up a dialogue with me. I'm not sure why he wants to talk to me especially after his unexplained disappearance before. He proceeds to tell me that he disappeared because I asked him for a status report on our situation and told him that I really liked him. He assumed that meant I was trying to lock him into a relationship.
What the hell? I was very disturbed by that assumption. Why do guys assume that every woman wants to marry him? He hadn't even shown me that he was boyfriend worthy let alone anything more serious. Goodness gracious...
Life is really in a tailspin for me right now. I have been working constantly for the past three years and I'm officially burned out. My company is slowly experiencing success but it is slow and I am being taught patience in that area.
My dating life is all over the place. Up until a couple of years ago, I was totally against the idea of having a boyfriend. I'm still not out there trolling the clubs and sports bars looking for "the one" or anything but I did decide that I was open to the idea of being in a relationship again after 5 years. When I made that decision, I didn't do it out of desparation so I am still very picky when it comes to guys.
Well late last year I met this guy. He was nice looking but he looked like the typical nice guy, not the typical guy I gravitate toward. I decided to step outside my box and exchanged numbers with him anyway. As it turns out, we had TONS of things in common. It was like he was the male version of me. We could talk about everything and it was really fun spending time with him. Well after we'd been hanging out for a month or so, he disappeared.
This is a common phenomenon with me, guys disappearing. I call them my own personal Houdini's. I called him and emailed him with no response. After a couple of unreturned phone calls and no email messages, I gave up. Well in the summer I work at one of the local amphitheaters part time and he works there full time. I knew I would see him but since I had given up, I wasn't worried. Well he kept making it a point to speak to me. He even had the nerve to ask if I was going to be mad all season. I told him that I wasn't mad but that I really didn't have much to say to him.
Thanks to the miracle of myspace, he found me and sent me a message today. He wants to start up a dialogue with me. I'm not sure why he wants to talk to me especially after his unexplained disappearance before. He proceeds to tell me that he disappeared because I asked him for a status report on our situation and told him that I really liked him. He assumed that meant I was trying to lock him into a relationship.
What the hell? I was very disturbed by that assumption. Why do guys assume that every woman wants to marry him? He hadn't even shown me that he was boyfriend worthy let alone anything more serious. Goodness gracious...
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